Thursday, April 19, 2012

Getting to the Surface

My boyfriend, understanding my visual nature, gave me this comparison the other morning: Solving a tough problem is like dealing with quicksand. The more you flail around frantically, the faster you sink.

So, what if... I remained still? What if I was more thoughtful and reflective and took more precise, informed action?

But how long will I have to wait until I am out? It would be faster if someone would just come over and pull me up by the hand.

For my independent study at Antioch University Los Angeles, I worked with Beverly Kaye, CEO of Career Systems International. In her book, Learn like a Leader, Kaye says," I learned (and have had to relearn more than once) that it is when the ground turns to quicksand that the most valuable learning and most valuable and enduring growth is about to happen. Oh, that there were an easier way."

It is encouraging to hear a woman as successful as Kaye wish for an easier way to get out of the muck.
I realize that the hardest part about the quicksand dilemma is that if you remain still, you won't sink, but you'll also never get out.

So how do you get out on your own?

"What you've gotta do is stop fighting," he says, "try and lift your body up... and try and wiggle up onto the surface and change the angle."

Change the angle.

Am I getting comfortable in the muck? ... Waiting (impatiently) for the universe to send some help?

Have I been looking at my problem from all angles?

Wiggle.... wiggle... wiggle...




Unknown said...

Last night when we were at the Bart your boyfriend and I were talking about the challenges of making decisions while you are feeling desperation, which I think is the same as panic or haste. My statement regarding this is: "A desperate choice is not really a choice at all" It's just a reaction. Great post.

reinelrose said...

Thanks Gabe. ;)

Stephanie D. said...

What I'm getting from this.. is to make every action a decision, not an act of desperation. These may sound like the same thing, but maybe if you just change your angle (your perspective), they are different. A decision puts you in control; you can have confidence in a decision.

reinelrose said...

Despair= loss of hope, hopelessness. If hope is lost, how can one expect a good result to come from decision-making?